I admit it – I’m the worst! To expect me to stay down for two weeks is insane. To expect me to not bend over for four weeks is absurd. To expect me not to exercise for six weeks is down right crazy!

But when you look at the big picture, it is so worth it!

Just like reinventing yourself… it may be hard to stick with the initial changes necessary for a complete recovery, but if you do, the rewards are exponential.

Same with recovering from divorce.  I don’t know about you, but I had to surgically remove my Ex from my house and my life, and I’m still recovering!

The similarities are creepy.  Physically and emotionally being down for the count… literally feeling physically unable to keep up, emotionally spent and completely exhausted.

But remember this: with every day that passes, you are getting stronger and closer to a full recovery. Really! I’m proof!

Now I must admit that I get really board and antsy when I have to take it easy, for anything. Vacation is one thing, I can get into that, but down for 6 weeks… that’s another thing altogether.

But that healing time is necessary, and if you try to circumvent the process, it will come back and bite you in the butt. HARD!

If you don’t give yourself the necessary healing time from a divorce, just like with surgery, you will never heal properly. You need that time alone to search your soul for what you really want out of life. You need to think of your wants, desires and aspirations first for a change.  You need to lick your wounds, and give yourself time to “mourn the dream”.

This process can’t be rushed.  If you do, you may very well end up in the same situation you were lucky enough to escape from. Our goal is to learn from your mistakes, not repeat them.

This necessary time for healing will pass… and you will be better, stronger and wiser for it.

Don’t forget:  IT’S YOUR TURN! YOU ARE WORTH IT!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

It doesn’t matter how careful you are about the people you surround yourself with, occasionally someone will slip through the cracks and stun you with their idiocy.

Just breath… just breath… this too will pass… ( I guess it’s the same as counting to 10 before you react, or overreact in my case.)

Like I’ve said before, it’s time to refuse to get sucked into other people’s chaos. If they want to live like that, fine, but I’m not participating. Period!

These are the kinds of things that test your resolve, and your new way of responding to life. But I think a little CPR is in order…

Remember, CPR stands for consistent, persistent, and resistant, and I could use a little of all three right now. (Jeff Herring was a genius to come up with this.)

I need to be consistent in the way I choose to respond to “annoyances”, shall we say. I need to be persistent in not getting caught up in their chaos. And I need to be resistant to their trying to get me caught up in their chaos.

You have to be on guard when it comes to this kind of person. They thrive on stirring up trouble. They enjoy being in everybody’s business, or suggesting possible scandal, or sensationalizing other people’s weaknesses. Granted, we all know this kind of behavior is to divert the focus off their own insecurities, but it gets really annoying to continually have to deal with their nonsense.  I say let’s ban them all from existence! How great would that be!

But alas, we can’t.  So, we have to get good at applying CPR to our daily life.  It will keep you strong, determined, and committed to your goals.  It will help keep you from diverting your focus, and slugging someone. Although I know that sometimes you just want to do the latter…

Just think – each time you don’t slug someone, you are getting stronger, and more in control of your life! I know that doesn’t always make you feel better at the time, but that inner strength builds on itself each time you use it.

Think of it as winning! Take your victory lap! You didn’t succumb! You didn’t get sucked in! Now that’s what I’m talking about!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!