How great is it to have the opportunity to start over?  Start fresh!  Begin again!

Wow!  There is some serious power in that.  It almost takes my breath away…. almost.

But I still have enough where withall to seize this chance to make the life I’ve always wanted for myself.  No excuses, no hesitation, no holding back.  There is nothing to fear but fear itself!

Back on the track that I know will bring me success, and happiness. Excited to embark on my new existence. I can feel it… really!  I can feel it in my smile, my step and my attitude. I’m happy almost all the time, which is a blessing unto itself. I’m thinking positively. I’m glad to get up each morning. I’m where I need to be to make this Dream a reality. Thank you God.

No more listening to others who worry that I’m not being realistic.  No more listening to people who think I should fit some mold that THEY are comfortable with.  No more letting anyone sour my ambition and excitement by their insecurity.

Last year really sucked, no matter how hard I tried to make it better. Just think if I hadn’t chosen to respond positively to the negative… I would have been a basket case, trust me. But that is a testament to how important it is to choose a positive response to life. I didn’t want to end up at the bottom of a crevasse… the end of my dreams… because someone else was pissed at me for divorcing them.

Well, no more! I will bloom as the person I know I am, and never succumb to the opinions of others. Never again!

I’m getting new exercise shoes for the new year. I’ve got a new attitude in the form of a fabulous new hair do. I’ve got a new interest in doing things that make me feel and look good. Like I said before, this year is all about ME!

I encourage you to join me. It’s OUR turn to be exactly who WE want to be! OUR turn to not listen to anyone or anything that will get in our way! Those days are OVER!

It’s all about US!

Again, thank you God!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

Welcome to our new page! Love it!!!!

New page, new day, new chance to create your Dream Life. New chance to live the life you were meant to live.

And if that weren’t enough, it’s about to be a New Year. I’m talking clean slate, start over, make it happen!

I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to breath easy again. This last year has been from Hell. What’s that about? It’s been a reminder of “be careful who you marry.” Need I say more? I mean really, go away already! Get on with your life! (This is my current chant -over and over.) They’re like stink on your shoe… you can wash it off but the smell still lingers….

New year, new Me! I’m devoting 2010 to Me! The Year of Me! It’s got a ring to it, right?

• I’m going to put my book on the market, promote it, share it, live it!
• I’m going to do whatever it takes to get paid for what I love doing!
• I’m  never going to be financially dependent again!
• I’m going to seek out the pleasure in each day!
• I am going to let the people in my life know just how important they are to me!
• I’m going to live and love more than ever!

As you can see, I’m going to be busy. But I can’t think of a better way to live my life than with purpose.

And as we all know, It’s My Turn!

It’s Your Turn, Too! Join me, won’t you?

Happy Living, and Merry Ho! Ho!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

I read the perfect advice yesterday for being successful and happy. It was written by Jeff Herring, who calls himself a “recovering marriage and family therapist.”

He said in order to be successful at anything in life, you need to take the “CPR Approach.”

CPR stands for consistent, persistent, and resistant.

Consistent – in our actions

Persistent –  in our drive, and

Resistant - to set backs and all those who may tell us we can’t do it!

How true is that! It’s so hard to keep that determination and drive we initially build in ourselves to make important changes in our lives. Life happens, and chisels away at our commitment when we are at our weakest.

It takes constant belief and trust in ourselves to build the momentum needed for change. It also takes total commitment.

But it’s hard to be totally committed to a goal when it’s not clear in your mind. Back to visualizing your Dream Life and exactly what it looks like.

When you have a clear picture of the kind of lifestyle and career  you want to achieve, it becomes tangible. Real. Yours.

What would make you want to get up in the morning, with a big smile on your face? What would make life worth living? What would make you passionate about each day? Answer these questions, and you’ve got your goal!

Promise yourself that you will be Consistent in your actions, Persistent in your drive, and Resistant to set backs.

And to hell with those who tell you you can’t achieve your Dream Life! They don’t know the New You!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

One of my favorite sports commentators is Mary Carillo. She describes the world of women’s tennis as “Big Babe Tennis.” I love that!

Here is my hommage to that description:

I choose to live in the “Big Babe World.”

I will never be that skinny, gaunt woman in the room, who is too worried about how she looks to other people (not to mention grumpy from hunger). Or who is too self-conscious to voice her opinions, and enjoy her life.

I will be the healthy, happy woman in the room, who is commanding attention, and glowing with confidence.

We have to start working with what Mother Nature gave us, and stop thinking we have to be something we are not.

Exercising, being active, enjoying your life, and living in the “Big Babe World” is a conscious decision. Make it!

One aspect of living in the “Big Babe World” is making the most of our physical self. Not striving for the unrealistic image projected by the media. It’s being the best our body can be.

This is where exercise comes in. It just takes discipline, which you are needing in other parts of your life right now, anyway. If you can master self-discipline here, you can apply it to all other areas of your life.

Think about it this way:  You will be taking control of your body and health, just like you are taking control of your life and your happiness.

The results will be confidence and pride, not to mention a sexier, healthier, happier You! And we haven’t even talked about the endorphins you get. How great it that?

Also, increase your basic daily activity level. Go out as often as possible. And I don’t mean cruising. I mean taking the dog for a walk, going to see live music in the park, enjoying different festivals in your town. What ever form it takes, explore where you live. You will be increasing your daily caloric use, and having fun at the same time.

The more you get out and do new things, the more active your life is, and the more you expose yourself to new experiences and new people.

This is one of our goals.

Another aspect of living in the “Big Babe World” is living large in your personality.

Being the dynamic personality that you have inside, you just haven’t always had the confidence to let it shine.

This is another one of our goals.

We are going to work on that….. aren’t we?

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

Ok, it’s time… time to become a Selfish Woman.

Time to start thinking of Yourself first for a change. Time to stop putting Yourself on the back burner. Time to take control of Your future!

You know who you are…the newly divorced, mid life woman who has been serving everyone else in her world but herself. Your kids are either sprouting wings and flying the coop, or just about to. You have either been a stay home Mom, or juggling being a Mom and working for the almighty dollar.

And chances are you don’t even like your job anymore. It’s not what you always dreamed you would be doing. And it’s safe to say your Life didn’t turn out the way you imagined… well, never fear! I’m here to help!

Now… I’m thinking you’ve lost about 200 lbs. recently…in the form of a man, am I right? You are reevaluating your life, and wondering how you ever got here in the first place. Well, I’m with you, Sister!

But don’t worry, I’m here to teach you how to become a Selfish Woman. A Woman who chooses to be a happy, positive and dynamic force, because she is worth it! Not a sad, vengeful, and bitter person. We don’t need any more of those in the world.

I will help you become the vibrant, powerful and successful person you were meant to be. The real you that just got lost in that “old life”  you are now breaking free from.

Think about it this way:  Your divorce is the best thing that ever happened to You!

Really! Whatever the reason, the reality is that it happened. And for it to have happened, you were no longer being treated or respected the way you deserve. Period. It doesn’t matter if it was fair, right, wrong, whatever. The fact is that your relationship would have never gone back to the way it was in the “good days”. He will never change, and you can’t make him. It doesn’t work that way.

Now, to be clear, there are two types of women in this situation:  the one who tried to keep the marriage together for whatever reason, i.e. kids, love, etc., and the one who caused the reason for the divorce in the first place.  This blog is for the former. The latter can go on with her day. Bubye!

Now, back to what we are here for. This will be a journey for all of us. But this will be one of the best jouneys you’ve ever had. The outcome will be a more powerful, successful, vivacious You, who chooses to be happy, positive, and enjoy Life.

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman In America!