I used to feel that if everything in my world didn’t turn out perfectly, it was due to my not trying hard enough. Can you say “Control Freak!” Now honestly, who can live up to those standards all the time? NO ONE!

And as soon as I accepted that reality, to relinquish control, I was completely liberated! It’s amazing! Life is so much easier now.

Relinquishing control doesn’t only include controlling the outcome of everything, it also includes feeling the need to be apart of everything.  I only do what I want to do now.  If it’s fundraising, it’s because I want to.  If it’s donating my time to a project, it’s because I want to. And I don’t mind taking the lead, if I can do it my way. Otherwise, I’m busy.

The days of solving everyone else’s problems are over. I only offer advice or my opinion when asked, or when I just can’t help myself. I don’t participate unless I really want to.  As for causes I don’t feel strongly about: instead of taking over when I see deficiencies, which is often, I just back away slowly as to not attract attention. Or I run, run like a wild Ubangi! I also don’t belong to committees anymore. Ugh! There’s too much “discussing” and not enough “doing.”  I’d rather just have my nails pulled out one by one! OR just not participate, preferably the latter.

I don’t know why I use to take things so personally. Unhappy in my life, I guess. Basically, “If anyone can fix it, it’s me!” Whether self imposed or not, “I must not be trying hard enough to make it work.” I felt like I had failed if I couldn’t “fix it”.  How ridiculous is that?

But I don’t want to live that way anymore.  I want to enjoy everything I do. Life is too short for me to try to fix other people. I have my hands full with my own self.

I highly recommend releasing the world to the powers that be. Contribute to the causes you feel strongly about. Participate in situations where you feel you will make a difference.  And let the rest go. Don’t accept all the offers presented to you. You know you don’t want to do all of them anyway. Be selective in how you spend your time.

You will more effective if you are more selective.

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

So you are going along with your daily life, trying to solve the world’s problems, one person at a time, when you start feeling bad. Physically.

Your body starts to act up…. you know, sick.

Your head starts hurting, your stomach is always upset, you start having irregular bleeding… insert your symptom here.

But there you go… still saying yes to the requests made of you. Now I might add here that these are not mandatory obligation, just requests from people who know that if they want something done, to give it to you!

Drum roll…….. now the stress is building. The stress of knowing that you don’t feel good anymore. And that none of the projects you are doing are being done to your standards. Don’t you just hate that!

Stop! Just stop! Stop saying yes to everything that comes your way. Start asking yourself  ”Does this get me any closer to my goal? To my Dream Life?”

If the answer is yes, then do it with gusto. If the answer is no, don’t do it.  Period.

It’s time to prioritize. It’s time to start thinking of yourself first. It’s Your Turn, remember???

When you are aligned with your correct life path, you won’t feel sick. You won’t feel so stressed that it makes you literally ill.

You will feel exhilaration. You will feel happiness. You will be excited to get up every morning. This is our goal for your life.

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!