Whether it is for the thrill, the fear, the peace, the turmoil, the happiness or the sadness (which I really don’t get) we base decisions on how an action will make us feel.

It’s not the act of acquiring things, it’s the feeling we get when we do so. It’s not the accomplishment we make, it’s how it makes us feel when we have accomplished something.

Think about it – when we do something nice for someone, it makes us feel good. And yes, there are people out there that will be mean to someone and it makes them feel good. Evil, I know, but true none the less.

So if feelings dictate actions, we can satisfy the feelings we want and need by our actions. We can choose how we are going to feel.

If you are at a place in your life where you are making big changes in your daily existence, you can choose how successful those changes are going to be by your actions. You can choose your actions by how they are going to make you feel. If every decision gets closer and closer to your Dream Life, you are going to feel happy, empowered and alive! And with the accomplishment of each stage of change, you will be building positive momentum that will carry you even faster toward your goal.

Feelings can be good. Feelings can be a great motivator. But feelings can also suck the life out of you. What you must learn is that you have complete control over how you are going to feel. No one can make you feel guilty but yourself. No one can make you feel inferior but yourself. Only YOU can accept those feelings. If you don’t accept them, you don’t feel them! It’s that easy! Did I just bury the lead???

The most empowering thing you can do for yourself is set yourself free! Free from all those negative, life-sucking, energy-draining feelings other people have tried to instill in you for their own purpose. You can’t be a power to contend with if you are weak and sad. You are much easier to dominate if you are subservient and powerless.

To HELL with that!

You don’t ever have to feel that again! Ever! You can choose to accept those feelings or you can choose to never accept those feelings again! Period!

Most of the pain and sadness we harbor is of our own choosing. For some reason we choose to hang on to memories that make us feel that way. But we don’t have to! We can release ourselves from those feelings and refuse to accept them anymore.

Yes, we all have had sad things happen in our past, and yes, the event was sad. But you don’t have to continue to be sad over the memory. It doesn’t change the outcome of the past, but it does change the outcome of the future.

Set yourself free! Choose your feelings! Choose how happy you are going to be! Choose how successful you are going to be! It is all in your control!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

Attitude is everything! I repeat:  Attitude is everything!

It’s what separates the good from the bad, the strong from the weak, the happy from the sad.

And happiness is a choice, not a side effect of a circumstance. It is all in your control.

You can dictate the outcome of almost any situation by how you choose to respond to it.

The way you react to what happens to you is completely in your control. Yes, bad things happen to good people. Life happens to everybody! But the way we respond to it reveals our true character.

You can choose to whine and pout, still not changing what has already happened, and making yourself feel miserable. Or you can choose a positive response to a bad situation, making yourself feel less of a victim, and more in control of the outcome. This choice will accelerate your recovery from whatever life dishes out.

You will never make a successful recovery from your divorce if you continue to feed energy to that old phase of your life. Every time you talk about it, you are perpetuating it’s power over you and giving it a life line. And it doesn’t deserve it! Flip off that life support Sister! Quick!

The sooner you take that power away from your old life, the sooner you will feel the positive power of your new choices. Like I said, happiness is a choice, not a side effect.

It’s good to be happy for a change! It’s good to feel in control! It’s good to be a SELFISH WOMAN!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

Whether it was creating a non-profit organization, a specialty retail business or deciding to share wisdom they learned from their own experiences, they are considered entrepreneurs. The word entrepreneur comes from the French word to “undertake.”

When you re-invent yourself, you “undertake” a new vision for your future. You dare to see yourself differently. That can be scary.

But the reality is “why not?” Why not live the life you dream of living? Why not do exactly what YOU want to do, not what someone else wants you to do? Because as you recall, IT’S YOUR TURN!

You are lucky enough to get a second chance to make your dream a reality. You are lucky enough to know by now what your strengths are and how to make them shine. You are wise enough to know that the outcome is in your control. It’s all in how you choose to respond. And you aren’t going to let anyone totally control you again, am I right?

When you create a career or business that will enable you to be independent, you will see the world differently. You will be stronger, happier and successful in everything you do. You will bring your own personal power to the table with each new adventure. You will be a Selfish Woman in the true positive sense of the word.

You will handle situations with the confidence that has been hidden inside you all this time. You will be prepared to deal with anything that comes your way. You are stronger and more in control. Now THAT’S what I’m talking about!

It’s there… inside you… waiting to get out!  Let your true SELF shine!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

Recipes are to give you ideas, and you take it from there. You can either follow it to the letter, or adapt it to your favorite flavor profiles, and the ingredients you have on hand.

Baking is the only thing you have to follow to the letter, which is why I don’t bake  - much.

The philosophy of Eating on Purpose is to make sure that everything that goes in a dish has a purpose. The ingredients must be nutritional and flavorful. Your goal is to stay as natural in your ingredients as possible.

A few things to remember:

• stick with the natural forms of whatever you can hunt, gather, pick or pluck
• simple carbs – BAD; natural complex carbs – GOOD; simple carbs being bread, pasta, cookies, chips, etc.; natural complex carbs being fruits and vegetables
• good fats – fish oils, olive oils, coconut oil, macadamia nut oil, sesame oil, organic unsalted butter, etc.
• bad fats – fats that are man-made (hydrogenated, transfats), and damaged fats (vegetable oils used at high temperatures, like canola, sunflower, safflower, etc.)
• eliminate as much artificial sugar from your daily intake as possible; you may have withdrawals at first (headaches, grumpiness), but remember – cancer cells feed on sugar – need I say more?

Now for some tips to make life easier:

• since you want to add as many fresh herbs to every meal as possible, buy organic herbs, wash them, shake the water off, wrap them in a paper towel, and store them in a plastic bag in the refrigerator; when it’s time to eat, tear or chop some leaves, and sprinkle over the top of your dish, always adding fresh herbs at the end to preserve the fresh flavors –  especially for flat leaf parsley, basil and chives.
• buy a bunch of lemon/limes, juice them, and store them in a glass bottle in the frig; then it’s ready to pour into bubble water, tea, a vinaigrette, over fish or chicken, fruit salad, whatever, for a burst of flavor and antioxidant punch.
• organic everything when possible, period!
• prep a bunch of veggies when you have a little time to spend in the kitchen, store in a plastic bag in the frig, then they are at the ready when you need something to nosh on, or for cooking.

I’m going to start posting recipes that I think you will love, and that will boost your nutritional intake.  The recipes will come from my next book Eating on Purpose.

Until then, Eat on Purpose!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!