I know I’ve talked about this before, and definitely in my book, The Most Selfish Woman in America, How to Make Your Divorce the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You!

You need to do something that takes your breath away!

I’m talking about one of those experiences where you find yourself squealing like a little girl . . . OK, work with me here!

This week I took “flight” on a Skycoaster. It is a cross between skydiving and hang-gliding on the end of a cable. You are harnessed onto the end of a very long cable and pulled up 183 feet to the top of a very tall pole. Then after you make peace with what you must do, you pull a “rip cord” and start diving/falling straight towards the ground until the cable swings you out and up to it’s pinnacle. Then you fall back from wince you came, just to do it all again. You swing like a pendulum, back and forth, until your momentum is completely spent, and you are left dangling and in awe.

The whole experience is thrilling and invigorating! And yet, somehow you feel peaceful when it’s over. It’s like being pushed to the edge and then finding a calmness in the aftermath.

I did this at Schlitterbaun in New Braunfels, Texas, but I’m sure you can find them nation-wide. I’ve also seen similar rigs at ranches that offer team-building challenge courses, so I know they are out there.

It’s worth finding one in your area. It’s not expensive and well worth the thrill. And this is exactly the kind of activity I’m encouraging you to do. Step outside of your comfort zone and do something that will take your breath away! You need experiences like this to catapult you out of your old life and into your new life. It is very symbolic, not to mention confidence building.

It is important to live each day on purpose! Enjoy each day to the fullest! Experience as much life as you possibly can!

It’s your turn!  It’s your time!  You deserve it!

Now, Go Girl, Go!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

We live for feelings. That’s why we do what we do in the first place – for the feeling it give us.

Whether it is for the thrill, the fear, the peace, the turmoil, the happiness or the sadness (which I really don’t get) we base decisions on how an action will make us feel.

It’s not the act of acquiring things, it’s the feeling we get when we do so. It’s not the accomplishment we make, it’s how it makes us feel when we have accomplished something.

Think about it – when we do something nice for someone, it makes us feel good. And yes, there are people out there that will be mean to someone and it makes them feel good. Evil, I know, but true none the less.

So if feelings dictate actions, we can satisfy the feelings we want and need by our actions. We can choose how we are going to feel.

If you are at a place in your life where you are making big changes in your daily existence, you can choose how successful those changes are going to be by your actions. You can choose your actions by how they are going to make you feel. If every decision gets closer and closer to your Dream Life, you are going to feel happy, empowered and alive! And with the accomplishment of each stage of change, you will be building positive momentum that will carry you even faster toward your goal.

Feelings can be good. Feelings can be a great motivator. But feelings can also suck the life out of you. What you must learn is that you have complete control over how you are going to feel. No one can make you feel guilty but yourself. No one can make you feel inferior but yourself. Only YOU can accept those feelings. If you don’t accept them, you don’t feel them! It’s that easy! Did I just bury the lead???

The most empowering thing you can do for yourself is set yourself free! Free from all those negative, life-sucking, energy-draining feelings other people have tried to instill in you for their own purpose. You can’t be a power to contend with if you are weak and sad. You are much easier to dominate if you are subservient and powerless.

To HELL with that!

You don’t ever have to feel that again! Ever! You can choose to accept those feelings or you can choose to never accept those feelings again! Period!

Most of the pain and sadness we harbor is of our own choosing. For some reason we choose to hang on to memories that make us feel that way. But we don’t have to! We can release ourselves from those feelings and refuse to accept them anymore.

Yes, we all have had sad things happen in our past, and yes, the event was sad. But you don’t have to continue to be sad over the memory. It doesn’t change the outcome of the past, but it does change the outcome of the future.

Set yourself free! Choose your feelings! Choose how happy you are going to be! Choose how successful you are going to be! It is all in your control!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

After seven days of my magic “elixir” and protein regiment, I lost five pounds. Yes, it was mostly water weight, but I needed to get that off my body so I could see what really needs to be done.

Now I know what I have to do next. Luckily I like exercising and being active. I feel energetic and vibrant when I’m consistently power-walking and lifting weights. I think more clearly and sleep more deeply. So, back to my power-walking five times a week, and lifting free weights three times a week.

And none too soon. Shorts and bathing suits are peaking out from the depths the closet, and I’m not ready! But I will be if it kills me!

I’m also going to stick with eating small meals four times a day. I am so motivated by the results I had from the first seven days that I’m going to continue the same regiment and add fruit. I’ll do this until I get to the size I want. Remember the more different colors you eat in a day the better.

I am actually looking forward to getting up in the mornings and getting at it again. I’m excited about how much better I’m feeling and how much more energized I am. I don’t work well with that sluggish feeling. It makes me grumpy. And it’s hard to feel sassy when you feel grumpy!

To recap, 2-3 oz. of lean protein and 1 cup of veggies four times a day, about every three hours. Drink 100 oz. of water each day. I put a little cayenne pepper and fresh lemon juice to the water. The cayenne increases your metabolism and the fresh lemon juice has a natural diuretic effect. And now I’m also adding about 1/2 cup of fruit each time. Good fruit choices are berries of all kinds, pineapple, papaya, grapefruit, cherries, kiwi, mango and melon. Stick with the fruits of the season.

The fresh fruits and vegetables will have an energizing effect on your body, which in turn will make you feel vibrant and renewed. Behold the power of food!

So there you go. If it works for me, it will work for you. You just have to plan ahead and be prepared to take your meals and water where ever you go. It’s just as easy to take two storage containers with food to work as it is one. It’s also easy to plan your meals around meetings or carpool.

Also, when you need to eat out with family or for business, don’t sweat it. Just enjoy yourself, then get back on your eating plan. Consistency is the key. Your splurging now and again isn’t going to ruin your progress. It might even help keep you motivated!

Don’t ever beat yourself up for “falling off the wagon.” Just get back on! There is no room for guilt here. It’s fun to splurge now and again. It’s natural. It makes life fun.

But the confidence and pleasure you get when you take control of your body and your life is also fun! Try it!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

It’s important to be inspired by other successful people. You know, the ones who created something from nothing. They conquered their fear of the unknown and created their own special vision for their life.

Whether it was creating a non-profit organization, a specialty retail business or deciding to share wisdom they learned from their own experiences, they are considered entrepreneurs. The word entrepreneur comes from the French word to “undertake.”

When you re-invent yourself, you “undertake” a new vision for your future. You dare to see yourself differently. That can be scary.

But the reality is “why not?” Why not live the life you dream of living? Why not do exactly what YOU want to do, not what someone else wants you to do? Because as you recall, IT’S YOUR TURN!

You are lucky enough to get a second chance to make your dream a reality. You are lucky enough to know by now what your strengths are and how to make them shine. You are wise enough to know that the outcome is in your control. It’s all in how you choose to respond. And you aren’t going to let anyone totally control you again, am I right?

When you create a career or business that will enable you to be independent, you will see the world differently. You will be stronger, happier and successful in everything you do. You will bring your own personal power to the table with each new adventure. You will be a Selfish Woman in the true positive sense of the word.

You will handle situations with the confidence that has been hidden inside you all this time. You will be prepared to deal with anything that comes your way. You are stronger and more in control. Now THAT’S what I’m talking about!

It’s there… inside you… waiting to get out!  Let your true SELF shine!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

It’s so important that you are constantly learning something new.

It stimulates your brain, your curiosity, and your interest in life.

Whether it is a foreign language, a new skill for your career, or something new in the “amazing – frustrating- world of computers”, you need to be learning something.

I’m learning how to build a website, edit it, and  manage it on my own. I feel like I’m in labor with another child. Literally! It’s painful at times, but I will be more self sufficient for it. That’s worth the pain, right?

I’m sure, in time, my selective memory will kick in and I’ll forget the hair raising shrieks that escaped from my mouth during this process.

I must admit though, I’m feeling more powerful with my increasing knowledge. Pretty soon I will be Super Website Woman!  Ok, maybe not.

But that’s my goal right now. To feel better about myself each and every day.

And it builds on itself. Self confidence builds exponentially.  It’s magic!  And we are focusing on rebuilding ours after divorce.

Learning something new each day feeds that growth.

• Read something inspirational at the end of each day.
• Sign up for a new class or seminar on something relevant to your business or interests.
• Practice vocab for the foreign language you’ve chosen to learn.
• Cook a new recipe for dinner.

Your Declaration:

“I commit to learning something new each and every day!”

Now DO IT!  It’s Your Turn!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

Is there some obstacle lingering in your path to accomplishing  your Dream Life? You know, something you can’t quite put your finger on… but it’s holding you back?

Could it be YOU? Could it be your lack of belief if YOURSELF?

It’s time for you to believe in yourself again.  Believe in your abilities to make your life happy again. Make your new career highly successful. Make your Dream Life a reality.

It takes tapping into your inner strength, and trusting your abilities. You have to be courageous. Too long have you let your courage and belief in yourself wain. You must get that back!

It’s your turn to be SELFISH. It’s your turn to get paid for your passion. It’s your turn to be as fabulous as you were meant to be! And the time is NOW!

Are you doing your visualizations faithfully? You know, visualizing your new life, what it looks like, what you look like in it, where you live, what you drive, the type of person your new partner will be…  For a refresher, read my “Secrets to Transforming Your Old Life into Your Dream Life” blog entry.

It is mandatory that you are visualizing the life you want to accomplish at least every morning and every night. The first thing you do before your feet hit the floor, and the last thing you do before you start sawing those logs.

The more detail you give to the vision, the sooner it will become a reality. And don’t edit yourself. Be as lavish in your vision as you want your life to be. You are only limited by your imagination and belief in yourself!

Reminder: You’ve cut out all the negative influences and people from your life, at least for now, right? If not, what are you waiting for? Nothing sucks out the courage and belief in yourself like hearing other people criticize or critique you. And who knows what baggage they’re carrying, or where their comments are coming from. All I know is you have to get away from all that negative nonsense, and focus on your inner strength, courage and conviction to make your Dream Life a reality. Period.

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

Again, it’s time to be SELFISH.

It’s time to successfully make the changes needed to accomplish your Dream Life.

The keys to success are to see what you want, live what you want, and be what you want to be. It’s that powerful!

See it!

Live it!

Be it!

The forces in the universe will align and contribute to making your Dream Life come true. But you have to do your part, which is…repeat after me:

See it!

Live it!

Be it!

Visualize what your Dream Life looks like… what your job is, what house you live in, what car you drive, where you vacation. What your physique looks like, what your hair looks like. What type of man you have sitting in your 2-door convertible, top down, driving up HWY 101 in California, your scarf flapping in the breeze. I can see it!

The more detail you attach to the vision, the more real it will become.

The sooner you start living as if the dream is real, the sooner it will become real. It’s the “live as if” theory.

Live as if you already are that person in your Dream Life. If you believe it, they believe it! Attitude is the greatest asset you have. And it is all in your control.

Attitude is what separates success from failure. Once you achieve a certain level of competence, attitude takes over. Belief in yourself will take you to your goal.

If you want to be a glamourous version of yourself, live like it. If you want to be the vivacious, dynamic person in your vision, be it, live it, just do it!

It doesn’t matter what others say about the new you. You may hear “That’s not the real you!” from old “friends”, but the reality is this is the new you. To hell with them! No one will hold you back from achieving your Dream Life! Especially old “friends!” Remember, you’ve divorced yourself from that mind set. Don’t fall back into it.

Do not tolerate any more negativity in your life. It will only suck the determination out of you. And we can’t have that!

Eliminate as much negative input from your daily life as possible. I’m serious. Cut out the news if you have to. Stop reading the paper, or your stock portfolio. Stop exposing yourself to cynical, negative people. That means family, too. And none of that mindless, draining, numbing TV.

Now is when you need positive reinforcement, not life leaching negativity.

Surround yourself with what makes you happy. Fresh flowers, candles, music, color, laughter, happy people. Now it is more important than ever before to be see the beautiful, positive side of life. It will feed your soul, and give you the strength to make your Dream Life a reality.

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!