It doesn’t matter how careful you are about the people you surround yourself with, occasionally someone will slip through the cracks and stun you with their idiocy.

Just breath… just breath… this too will pass… ( I guess it’s the same as counting to 10 before you react, or overreact in my case.)

Like I’ve said before, it’s time to refuse to get sucked into other people’s chaos. If they want to live like that, fine, but I’m not participating. Period!

These are the kinds of things that test your resolve, and your new way of responding to life. But I think a little CPR is in order…

Remember, CPR stands for consistent, persistent, and resistant, and I could use a little of all three right now. (Jeff Herring was a genius to come up with this.)

I need to be consistent in the way I choose to respond to “annoyances”, shall we say. I need to be persistent in not getting caught up in their chaos. And I need to be resistant to their trying to get me caught up in their chaos.

You have to be on guard when it comes to this kind of person. They thrive on stirring up trouble. They enjoy being in everybody’s business, or suggesting possible scandal, or sensationalizing other people’s weaknesses. Granted, we all know this kind of behavior is to divert the focus off their own insecurities, but it gets really annoying to continually have to deal with their nonsense.  I say let’s ban them all from existence! How great would that be!

But alas, we can’t.  So, we have to get good at applying CPR to our daily life.  It will keep you strong, determined, and committed to your goals.  It will help keep you from diverting your focus, and slugging someone. Although I know that sometimes you just want to do the latter…

Just think – each time you don’t slug someone, you are getting stronger, and more in control of your life! I know that doesn’t always make you feel better at the time, but that inner strength builds on itself each time you use it.

Think of it as winning! Take your victory lap! You didn’t succumb! You didn’t get sucked in! Now that’s what I’m talking about!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

You go along being the strong one… deflecting the incoming… cleaning up the debris.

Then all of the sudden you are the emotional one. You, the one who never lets them see you cry… and yet now it just takes over without asking! What’s that about?

Now is when you have to put your hands up and say  ”Take it God!  I need your help!”

I’ve always prided myself on being bullet proof when it come to emotional control. But lately, I’m being humbled. The amount of change that has hit me all at once seems really BIG.

I’m sure this is a lesson that I needed to learn. But, damn, I hate it! It Hurts! And I don’t like “Hurts!” And I don’t like to cry. I look UGLY when I cry. I say again, UGLY!

I’m so tired of this sh**. I got a divorce trying to get away from any more of this sh**. And the reality is, you can’t escape it. As long as you have mutual children, you can’t escape. That is the hard, fast reality of marrying the wrong person. Even divorcing them isn’t good enough!

But you know what? I will no longer choose to participate in his chaos. It sucks the life out of me, and I have consciously made the decision not to live like that any more. Ever!

I don’t want to perpetuate that negative, ugly way of living. I will never participate again. That is my promise to myself.

Yes, I may be hurt again, but I will still choose to respond with a positive attitude. If I don’t, who will? If I don’t lead by example, again, who will?

The time to change is now! It is time to be a SELFISH WOMAN who chooses to respond to life in a positive way. To enjoy life to the fullest, no matter what. To put myself first!

You can’t do that if your panties are in a wad. Period!

Enough said.

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!