Sometimes we are our own worst enemy. It’s true!
We get all motivated to make a big change in our life, but we seem to hit a wall just when we think we can’t fail.
Usually that wall is You! When we visualize making big changes in our lives, we forget to change everything else in our daily routine that would sabotage our success. Habits that we have acquired over the years that seem harmless. Watching TV (even if it’s CNBC), shopping, running errands – insert your habit here.
A New Life requires new habits. Obviously your old habits didn’t encourage change before. So you have to change those old habits.
Start spending your time on activities that help you accomplish your Big Change. Focus. Research. Visualize. Reinforce.
Most big changes in life require new skills. Work on them. New habits. Work on them. New mind set. Work on it.
See it! Live it! Be it!
Don’t stand in your own way. The rest of the world will be glad to do that for you.
Use the CPR Approach – Consistence, Persistence and Resistance! It is in your control. Like Jeff Herring says, “be consistent in your actions, persistent in your drive and resistant to set backs and all those who may tell you that you can’t do it.”
Just make sure that with this new change in life, you create new productive habits to support it.
Happy Living!
Christia
The Most Selfish Woman in America!
Once change starts…things are never the same again.
It never fails, once changed has been initiated, your world is altered forever.
No matter how much you fight it, or try to explain it away, the reality is that it will never go back to “when it was good” or the way it was before.
We try so hard to keep things from changing in our world, especially when it is what we thought we wanted, or needed, in our life. What we need to accept is that change happens for a reason. Somehow, someone in your world isn’t happy with the way things are. They initiate the change. And you have to deal with it.
A wisdom I’ve learned over the years is to “go with the flow.” The times I have tried to fight the inevitable, I’ve always lost. Even if I think I’ve won, things never go back to the way they were. Feelings are changed forever. Maybe not drastically, but its definitely different.
Sometimes it feel like you are getting bombarded with a lot of changes all at once. It’s exhausting! That’s when you need to get more sleep. Try to remain calm. Exercise. Breath! Do whatever you derive comfort from. It’s also important to remind yourself what’s really important in life.
The smoother we can handle these times of transition, the sooner it will be over. Fighting prolongs the pain of change. Accepting the new conditions shortens the recovery period.
Acceptance is the key. Choose to respond in a positive way. Make the most of the situation, what ever it is. Don’t participate in the negative. This too will pass. Life will settle back down, and you will be happy again.
Happy Living!
Christia
The Most Selfish Woman in America!
As wrong as it is, bad things happen to everybody.
Being the control freaks/problem solvers we are, we think we could or should have been able to prevent this stab in the heart, whatever form it takes. We over analyze the signs we should have seen, or how we could have planned ahead to avoid the dreaded outcome.
Reality is we can’t! No matter how hard we try to control everything in our world to keep negative things from happening, they still do. As long as other people are involved in the equation, you do not have the ultimate control. All of their “baggage” can’t help but seep into their interaction with other people, and there you are, effected by other peoples’ “stuff.” They’ve had a whole other life happen long before you were exposed to them, and you don’t know where they’ve been!
The sooner you face this, the happier your life will be. The sooner you embrace the idea of going with the flow, the healthier and less stressful your existence will be. All you can control is how you choose to respond to what happen to you. That is in your control.
You can choose to respond with a positive attitude, and make sure things turn out in the best way possible, or you can wallow in self pity, pout… still not changing anything… and prolong the misery. Your Choice!
There is an instant freedom in this reality. Once you accept the fact that you are not responsible for what happens to everything and everyone in your life, you think about things differently. Your creative juices flow free and clear again. You don’t take everything so personally. Your ability to choose a positive response becomes much easier. You don’t have the burden of the world on your shoulders anymore. You get back in emotional balance. You are able to enjoy life again.
And isn’t that what life should be about?
Happy Living!
Christia
The Most Selfish Woman in America!
It’s amazing how powerful an escape from reality can be. Even if just for a few days.
You are working hard to juggle all the changes for your new life. Positive changes, but changes none the less.
It’s very demanding on you mentally and physically. And at some point, you are going to need to step away from your “life”, and take a breather.
But the benefits are astounding!
- You have a renewed passion for making your Dream Life a reality
- You are calm, relaxed and peaceful
- You can see your goals clearly again.
- Not to mention the change in environment can be good for your ego! (Insert imagination here.)
I just got back from a short trip to the wine country in Sonoma and Napa Valleys in California. The experience was peaceful, beautiful, and restful. I feel whole again. I’m rejuvenated, and ready to finish what I’ve started. I’m back on track to making my Dream Life a reality.
I’m also reminded how visually beautiful life can be. It’s good to be reminded. You can’t improve on Nature. She’s bigger than all of us. But sometimes we get so wrapped up in what seems like an insurmountable task, that we don’t appreciate the beauty and blessings around us. We loose sight of them, along with our goals. But when we step back and take a breath, we can see clearly again, and we remember how much we want to make our goals reality.
It really is possible. It can be done.
AND YOU’RE WORTH IT! GET BACK ON TRACK! MAKE IT HAPPEN!
IT’S YOUR TURN!
Happy Living!
Christia
The Most Selfish Woman in America!
Here are some good habits to dial into your daily routine to promote healthy eating in your life. Not glamourous, but effective!
When you are already prepping veggies for something else, make enough of your favorites to store in a zipped bag in the refrigerator. Get one of those large containers of Greek plain 2% yogurt, and mix your favorite dip mix into it. Now get in the habit of putting a plate of veggies on your counter in the kitchen. When you know you’re going to be in the area for a while, take out the dip. Eat some. You can leave the veggies out most of the day. Make a point to snack on them. (Of course, the dip can’t stay out all day.)
The yogurt dip is far more beneficial to your body that a sour cream version, and more stable. It will last longer at room temperature. And you won’t be able to tell the difference in taste. Seriously! Greek yogurt is a fabulous substitute for sour cream. And you get all the health and digestive benefits from the calcium and probiotics. And for some veggies, like carrots, the nutrients are better absorbed when eaten with fat, like that in the 2% yogurt dip.
Another good habit is to make a fruit salad in the morning and leave it on the counter with a fork near by. Prep once and eat all day.
These are great ways of getting kids, and yourself, to eat more fruits and vegetables. They tend to eat more when there is easy access. And so will you!
Get into the habit of making fruit and veggies easier to snack on. I say let’s make health easier on ourselves, shall we?
Happy Living!
Christia
The Most Selfish Woman in America!
