It’s so important that you are constantly learning something new.
It stimulates your brain, your curiosity, and your interest in life.
Whether it is a foreign language, a new skill for your career, or something new in the “amazing – frustrating- world of computers”, you need to be learning something.
I’m learning how to build a website, edit it, and manage it on my own. I feel like I’m in labor with another child. Literally! It’s painful at times, but I will be more self sufficient for it. That’s worth the pain, right?
I’m sure, in time, my selective memory will kick in and I’ll forget the hair raising shrieks that escaped from my mouth during this process.
I must admit though, I’m feeling more powerful with my increasing knowledge. Pretty soon I will be Super Website Woman! Ok, maybe not.
But that’s my goal right now. To feel better about myself each and every day.
And it builds on itself. Self confidence builds exponentially. It’s magic! And we are focusing on rebuilding ours after divorce.
Learning something new each day feeds that growth.
- Read something inspirational at the end of each day.
- Sign up for a new class or seminar on something relevant to your business or interests.
- Practice vocab for the foreign language you’ve chosen to learn.
- Cook a new recipe for dinner.
Your Declaration:
“I commit to learning something new each and every day!”
Now DO IT! It’s Your Turn!
Happy Living!
Christia
The Most Selfish Woman in America!
Ok, finally, here is the meaning of SELFISH, as in The Most Selfish Woman in America:
S – being selfish for a change, thinking of yourself first, not last anymore, because IT’S YOUR TURN! Dammit!
E - living an energetic lifestyle
L – laughing, enjoying life, and choosing a positive response to life
F – feeding your body with clean, lean, natural foods
I - intelligence – feeding your mind and soul through traveling, learning and loving
S – being the successful, powerful woman you were meant to be
H – being happy with yourself and the new life you’ve created.
That’s my definition of SELFISH.
It is truly being a dynamic, powerful woman who enjoys life to the fullest. It’s teaching others to do the same. It’s spreading the word that we can all be that vibrant force we were born to be.
Newly divorced women need to hear this message. They need to be reminded that they can rise up out of the darkness, and be the fabulous person they were meant to be.
Somehow we get lost in our “life.” We get lost in our job as mother, comforter, protector, nurturer, wife. Then, when that period of our life is over, we aren’t quite sure how we got “lost” in the first place. It happened so fast. With no warning. That’s all we know.
Well not any more! Things have changed. Quickly! So it’s time to regroup, and think of yourself first for a change.
It’s time to live my definition of SELFISH! And with no regrets! The term SELFISH is only offensive to those who don’t know what I’m talking about. And they aren’t a part of this conversation.
It is about pulling yourself up, and living the life you were always meant to live. To be the person God meant for you to be. To be a leader, not a victim.
And you can achieve all of this if you have the courage to trust yourself, and believe you can be the best woman you can be. It’s all in your control!
Happy Living!
Christia
The Most Selfish Woman in America!
I read the perfect advice yesterday for being successful and happy. It was written by Jeff Herring, who calls himself a “recovering marriage and family therapist.”
He said in order to be successful at anything in life, you need to take the “CPR Approach.”
CPR stands for consistent, persistent, and resistant.
Consistent – in our actions
Persistent – in our drive, and
Resistant - to set backs and all those who may tell us we can’t do it!
How true is that! It’s so hard to keep that determination and drive we initially build in ourselves to make important changes in our lives. Life happens, and chisels away at our commitment when we are at our weakest.
It takes constant belief and trust in ourselves to build the momentum needed for change. It also takes total commitment.
But it’s hard to be totally committed to a goal when it’s not clear in your mind. Back to visualizing your Dream Life and exactly what it looks like.
When you have a clear picture of the kind of lifestyle and career you want to achieve, it becomes tangible. Real. Yours.
What would make you want to get up in the morning, with a big smile on your face? What would make life worth living? What would make you passionate about each day? Answer these questions, and you’ve got your goal!
Promise yourself that you will be Consistent in your actions, Persistent in your drive, and Resistant to set backs.
And to hell with those who tell you you can’t achieve your Dream Life! They don’t know the New You!
Happy Living!
Christia
The Most Selfish Woman in America!
Don’t you just hate it when you discover that you are human?
You go along being the strong one… deflecting the incoming… cleaning up the debris.
Then all of the sudden you are the emotional one. You, the one who never lets them see you cry… and yet now it just takes over without asking! What’s that about?
Now is when you have to put your hands up and say ”Take it God! I need your help!”
I’ve always prided myself on being bullet proof when it come to emotional control. But lately, I’m being humbled. The amount of change that has hit me all at once seems really BIG.
I’m sure this is a lesson that I needed to learn. But, damn, I hate it! It Hurts! And I don’t like “Hurts!” And I don’t like to cry. I look UGLY when I cry. I say again, UGLY!
I’m so tired of this sh**. I got a divorce trying to get away from any more of this sh**. And the reality is, you can’t escape it. As long as you have mutual children, you can’t escape. That is the hard, fast reality of marrying the wrong person. Even divorcing them isn’t good enough!
But you know what? I will no longer choose to participate in his chaos. It sucks the life out of me, and I have consciously made the decision not to live like that any more. Ever!
I don’t want to perpetuate that negative, ugly way of living. I will never participate again. That is my promise to myself.
Yes, I may be hurt again, but I will still choose to respond with a positive attitude. If I don’t, who will? If I don’t lead by example, again, who will?
The time to change is now! It is time to be a SELFISH WOMAN who chooses to respond to life in a positive way. To enjoy life to the fullest, no matter what. To put myself first!
You can’t do that if your panties are in a wad. Period!
Enough said.
Happy Living!
Christia
The Most Selfish Woman in America!
Isn’t it amazing how all of the sudden you wake up one day and your whole life is changing…again?
You know, that time period between the divorce and your finally being on your own, literally?
It comes in phases.
Phase I: the actual divorce and your ex moving out
Phase II: the recovery period, where you try to catch your breath and make sense of it all
Phase III: when you start to see the beauty of your future, and focus on achieving your Dream Life
Phase IV: when your children start moving out, for what ever reason, and you’re OK with it.
The order of the last two can interchange. But it’s amazing how fast that time passes…
None of us can completely control how this unfolds, because there are too many factors involved that you don’t have control over. Like how other people will act or react to what has happened to your family. The dynamics of that are volatile. Depending on how hurt the feelings are of the participants dictates how rough the transition will be.
Hopefully you will have the time you need in each phase to be emotionally ready for the next one.
But the reality is that you can wake up one day and get thrown into a phase that you are not ready for.
You are going along, thinking you have a handle on the changes that your life has taken. Then all of the sudden, you get hit in the head with, yet again, another big change. Damn! How long is this going to keep happening? Enough already!
Brace yourself: Your survival technique has to be go with the flow.The more you fight the inevitable, the harder your life becomes. And usually people fight the inevitable because they want to think they can control everything, or they don’t want to face the change.
Remember, once the change has been initiated, things will never go back to what they once were, no matter now much you fight against it, or for it.
You have to accept the fact that you can only control how you are going to respond to what happens, not what happens!
The sooner you learn this lesson, the sooner you can control the type of life you will live.
Make the conscious choice to respond positively to whatever life dishes out. You need to enjoy life on a daily basis. You never know what tomorrow will bring, especially if your recent history is any indication!
You have to break that unhappy cycle. You have to decide that you are not going to participate in the negative anymore. It’s all up to you!
Remember, it’s your turn to be happy for a change. It’s your turn to be a SELFISH WOMAN! YOU DESERVE IT!
Happy Living!
Christia
The Most Selfish Woman in America!
