Is there some obstacle lingering in your path to accomplishing  your Dream Life? You know, something you can’t quite put your finger on… but it’s holding you back?

Could it be YOU? Could it be your lack of belief if YOURSELF?

It’s time for you to believe in yourself again.  Believe in your abilities to make your life happy again. Make your new career highly successful. Make your Dream Life a reality.

It takes tapping into your inner strength, and trusting your abilities. You have to be courageous. Too long have you let your courage and belief in yourself wain. You must get that back!

It’s your turn to be SELFISH. It’s your turn to get paid for your passion. It’s your turn to be as fabulous as you were meant to be! And the time is NOW!

Are you doing your visualizations faithfully? You know, visualizing your new life, what it looks like, what you look like in it, where you live, what you drive, the type of person your new partner will be…  For a refresher, read my “Secrets to Transforming Your Old Life into Your Dream Life” blog entry.

It is mandatory that you are visualizing the life you want to accomplish at least every morning and every night. The first thing you do before your feet hit the floor, and the last thing you do before you start sawing those logs.

The more detail you give to the vision, the sooner it will become a reality. And don’t edit yourself. Be as lavish in your vision as you want your life to be. You are only limited by your imagination and belief in yourself!

Reminder: You’ve cut out all the negative influences and people from your life, at least for now, right? If not, what are you waiting for? Nothing sucks out the courage and belief in yourself like hearing other people criticize or critique you. And who knows what baggage they’re carrying, or where their comments are coming from. All I know is you have to get away from all that negative nonsense, and focus on your inner strength, courage and conviction to make your Dream Life a reality. Period.

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

Again, it’s time to be SELFISH.

It’s time to successfully make the changes needed to accomplish your Dream Life.

The keys to success are to see what you want, live what you want, and be what you want to be. It’s that powerful!

See it!

Live it!

Be it!

The forces in the universe will align and contribute to making your Dream Life come true. But you have to do your part, which is…repeat after me:

See it!

Live it!

Be it!

Visualize what your Dream Life looks like… what your job is, what house you live in, what car you drive, where you vacation. What your physique looks like, what your hair looks like. What type of man you have sitting in your 2-door convertible, top down, driving up HWY 101 in California, your scarf flapping in the breeze. I can see it!

The more detail you attach to the vision, the more real it will become.

The sooner you start living as if the dream is real, the sooner it will become real. It’s the “live as if” theory.

Live as if you already are that person in your Dream Life. If you believe it, they believe it! Attitude is the greatest asset you have. And it is all in your control.

Attitude is what separates success from failure. Once you achieve a certain level of competence, attitude takes over. Belief in yourself will take you to your goal.

If you want to be a glamourous version of yourself, live like it. If you want to be the vivacious, dynamic person in your vision, be it, live it, just do it!

It doesn’t matter what others say about the new you. You may hear “That’s not the real you!” from old “friends”, but the reality is this is the new you. To hell with them! No one will hold you back from achieving your Dream Life! Especially old “friends!” Remember, you’ve divorced yourself from that mind set. Don’t fall back into it.

Do not tolerate any more negativity in your life. It will only suck the determination out of you. And we can’t have that!

Eliminate as much negative input from your daily life as possible. I’m serious. Cut out the news if you have to. Stop reading the paper, or your stock portfolio. Stop exposing yourself to cynical, negative people. That means family, too. And none of that mindless, draining, numbing TV.

Now is when you need positive reinforcement, not life leaching negativity.

Surround yourself with what makes you happy. Fresh flowers, candles, music, color, laughter, happy people. Now it is more important than ever before to be see the beautiful, positive side of life. It will feed your soul, and give you the strength to make your Dream Life a reality.

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

This is another time for you to be SELFISH.

When you exercise, it is all about YOU, no one else. No cell phones, no business, no diverting your focus.

If you must multi-task, do it in your breathing, your awareness and your enjoyment.

A few tips before you start:

1.  Get music on your i-Pod that has the same beat of the speed that you want to walk. That makes it easier to stay at a consistent pace without too much thought. Always have the volume low enough that you can hear what is going on around you. You are empowered and in control now, act like it!

2.  The better your breathing, the easier, and longer you can exercise. Breathe in through your nose, and out your mouth. Breathe in for the count of 5 and out for the count of 3. In through your nose for 5, and out through your mouth for 3. Even when you get winded, stay in control of your breathing. In 5, out 3. Controlled breathing will help keep you from panting, and help keep your heart rate at a safe level. If you can’t maintain this breathing pattern, slow down!

3.  Use a heart rate monitor. Just go buy one, and use it each time. The monitor will keep you informed of how efficiently you are working out. You want to stay within a “fat burning” zone.  The optimal zone will be between 130 to 145 beats per minute. The monitor tells you what your heart rate is, based on your physique . If you get higher than 145, slow down. If you are interval training, you can go as hard as you can for about a minute, then slow back down for 5 minutes until your heart rate gets back down to 130, then go again. As far as length of time, your goal is 45 minutes, 4 to 5 times a week.

4.  If the temperature is 85 degrees or hotter, take water with you. Don’t run the risk of getting overheated. It’s not worth it! Also be relentless with the sunscreen. From the base of the neck up, use at least 45 spf zinc oxide sunscreen. SkinCeuticals has a good one. And a hat or visor is a must.

If you will power walk, instead of run, you will get all of the cardio benefits without the wear and tear on your body. Hugely important.

Drink water! Drink water! Drink water! Stay hydrated.

When you are walking, make sure you know what is going on around you. Safety is the key! Take your dog, if you have one. Also choose a route that is aesthetically pleasing. A neighborhood with big houses, a local park with lots of trees and shade. Whatever you have access to, make sure you don’t get bored visually. This will increase your enjoyment.

Try to tighten your abdominal muscles while you walk. It will take awhile to do it automatically, but the more you tighten your stomach muscles, the firmer your torso will become. Also, bend your arms at the elbow and pump them with each step. You will burn more calories this way.

If your lower back starts hurting, it may be because your hamstrings need to be stretched out. After the first 5 to 10 minutes of your walk, stop and stretch your calf muscles by putting the ball of your feet on the top of a curb, and lower your heels down to the street level. It’s easier to do this leaning on a mail box or light poll. Give the stretch 1 to 2 minutes, and don’t bounce.

Then with your knees slightly bent, lean over to touch the ground. Let your body hold that position for at least a minute to stretch the hamstrings. Again, no bouncing. Then get back to the rest of your power walk.

At the end of your walk, give yourself the last 5 minutes to cool down. Slow down your pace, so that your body can naturally cool down without completely stopping.

Use this exercise time with yourself, for yourself. Do your affirmations, work out your current problems, reinforce your new attitude and approach to life. What you focus on expands. Use this time to focus on the NEW YOU.

With every step you take, you are reinforcing your new direction in Life. See it!  Live it!  Be it!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

OK, reality check:

BATHING SUIT WEATHER!

Even living in a “Big Babe World”, we have to be healthy, confident and the best we can be!

Now is the time for an Intake Alert! Time to be aware of what you put in your mouth, and how many calories you burn in a day.

If you’ve been indulging yourself in the celebration of Summer’s arrival, like I have been, it’s time to get back in control. And if you need to undo the “indulgence”, let’s get started .

For at least 2 weeks, cut out all alcohol, artificial sugar, breads, and processed foods.  NO, WAIT!  Don’t leave me now!

If you will give yourself 2 weeks on Intake Alert, you will be shocked how effective it is.

You will loose that bloated, swollen feeling. You will brighten up your skin. Your clothes will start fitting again. I’m Serious!

And  you won’t have to pay anyone anything! It’s all in your control, and your budget.

Here is your goal:  All fresh fruits, veggies, and clean, lean protein. Lots of water, some green tea and coffee, no processed fruit juices.  No dairy other than a small yogurt a day.  Preferably everything organic.

My clean proteins of choice are ground turkey breast, boneless, skinless, totally trimmed chicken breast, lean, grass fed beef, fish and protein from beans. Then all the veggies you want, cooked or raw. Extra virgin olive oil is a great cooking medium. And fresh fruit. I know it has sugar, but it is natural, and has so many antioxidants, it is vital for your health.

In my upcoming book, THE MOST SELFISH WOMAN IN AMERICA, I will go into detail about clean and lean eating, including benefits, recipes, and easy techniques for gourmet cooking. Life and food should be enjoyed!

Again, your goal is all natural, not “diet” anything. Clean, lean, organic, fresh.

Diabetics have to adapt the Intake Alert to their specific restrictions.

A little planning will make the 2 weeks easy to stick to. Every few days prep your veggies. Cut them into snack size pieces and put them in a ziploc bag. That way you always have something ready to snack on. This also makes cooking veggies easier because the prep part is already done. Also brown your ground turkey so it’s ready to use how ever you choose. Same with the chicken breasts. Just cook enough for a couple of days, then change up the protein you cook, to prevent boredom.

Summer is the perfect time for  an Intake Alert because the berries and cherries are in season. No mess or fuss. Just rinse and eat. I love that! And the melons – fabulous! Heaven! Fruit – God’s gift to Big Babes! (I think I’m adopting that title, Big Babe.)

There is not a fat person alive that eats like this. Look around! People who eat like this are vibrant, bright-eyed, strong and healthy. They can’t help it!

Now for the Exercise part of Intake Alert. Make a point to power (or just briskly) walk at least 30 minutes a day, 4-5 times per week. Lift  weights for upper body  3 times per week.

Focus on shoulders, biceps, and triceps, keeping your core muscles tight. Proper technique is important to prevent injury, so either look it up, or get personal instruction. You only have to get trained once, take notes, and repeat at home. Takes notes, though, if you aren’t going to use a personal trainer more than once. You need to reproduce proper technique to be the most effective at home. In my upcoming book, THE MOST SELFISH WOMAN IN AMERICA, I will go into detail about weight lifting techniques for your home workouts.

This exercise routine is great for everyday life, not just this 2 week focus period. You can make a huge difference in your strength and health if you adopt this exercise program to your Dream Life that we are working toward. Again, check out my upcoming book for your Dream Life focus.

If you will commit to 2 weeks on Intake Alert, you will be sold! Just shaking up you intake, and output, will get your body back into balance.

If you have any questions, leave me a comment. I will answer.

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

One of my favorite sports commentators is Mary Carillo. She describes the world of women’s tennis as “Big Babe Tennis.” I love that!

Here is my hommage to that description:

I choose to live in the “Big Babe World.”

I will never be that skinny, gaunt woman in the room, who is too worried about how she looks to other people (not to mention grumpy from hunger). Or who is too self-conscious to voice her opinions, and enjoy her life.

I will be the healthy, happy woman in the room, who is commanding attention, and glowing with confidence.

We have to start working with what Mother Nature gave us, and stop thinking we have to be something we are not.

Exercising, being active, enjoying your life, and living in the “Big Babe World” is a conscious decision. Make it!

One aspect of living in the “Big Babe World” is making the most of our physical self. Not striving for the unrealistic image projected by the media. It’s being the best our body can be.

This is where exercise comes in. It just takes discipline, which you are needing in other parts of your life right now, anyway. If you can master self-discipline here, you can apply it to all other areas of your life.

Think about it this way:  You will be taking control of your body and health, just like you are taking control of your life and your happiness.

The results will be confidence and pride, not to mention a sexier, healthier, happier You! And we haven’t even talked about the endorphins you get. How great it that?

Also, increase your basic daily activity level. Go out as often as possible. And I don’t mean cruising. I mean taking the dog for a walk, going to see live music in the park, enjoying different festivals in your town. What ever form it takes, explore where you live. You will be increasing your daily caloric use, and having fun at the same time.

The more you get out and do new things, the more active your life is, and the more you expose yourself to new experiences and new people.

This is one of our goals.

Another aspect of living in the “Big Babe World” is living large in your personality.

Being the dynamic personality that you have inside, you just haven’t always had the confidence to let it shine.

This is another one of our goals.

We are going to work on that….. aren’t we?

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

At this point in your life, you are in need of a transformation.

After enduring the dynamics of a divorce, and the scars that it creates, it’s time to transform your old life into your Dream Life. The Life you always imagined living, but didn’t quite make.

What is that picture you had in your mind… the Dream Life you knew you were destined to live? The image may be vague at first, because it’s been suppressed for so long.  But concentrate on seeing it in your mind. The clearer you can see it, the sooner you can add details to it. Details make the image concrete. The more concrete, the more attainable.

Transforming your life is part of your divorce recovery process. Rising above that which held you down. Rising above that old life, and transforming into your new life!

Only you can change for the better. It won’t be done for you. Only you can make the changes needed to propel you into your Dream Life.

It’s Your Turn! Transform Yourself! You are worth it!

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!